Legend of the Cottonwood Tree Star

Today was our first park day with the homeschool group I agreed to take over here. The people were really nice, the kids very accepting of Carter, it is just that parks here are NOT accessible….grrrrr! In any case, it was a beautiful park with  hundreds of old cottonwood trees lining the river that the kids played in. Again, Carter couldn’t get down to the river area but this is how we learned something new. In an effort to include Carter some of the kids went out scouting for cottonwood twigs.

Did you know that if you are very lucky and you snap a cottonwood tree twig right on the lines, you can find a star hiding inside? I grew up with cottonwoods all over Arizona and never knew this.

The group knew there was a Native American legend surrounding this little oddity of nature so when we came home we looked it up.

According to Arapaho and Cheyenne tribes, they believed that this is where the stars in the sky come from. According to this legend, the wind sent them to the sky from the trees.  There is also another legend that the stars hide there during the day. The Lakota use the cottonwood tree as the ‘tree of life’ in their Sundance ceremony because of the star shape found in the pith.

You won’t see the star in every branch, if the twig is too green or too old, it won’t appear. It is a fun little hunt to try out with the kiddo’s next time you are out among cottonwoods. Just take your allergy meds before you go. My eyes are now itching like crazy!

Picture credit to: SPREE

Life Learners

We are making a visit to Las Vegas last week of this month. I am so excited I can hardly stand it! Besides the Luna’s  and the Lax’s, I really want to see the my unschoolin’ friends. I can’t believe how much they fed my soul and motivated me. I have a real yearning to just sit and talk and have the kids run free. I have been catching up on all of my old friends blogs today and I wanted to share with you all people who motivate me to be a peaceful, happy person and continue with unschooling when I am unsure of myself and my motivations.

Elizabeth-one of my all time favorite people. She is just so peaceful and cool!

Tara-when I grow up I want to be as good of a person to the Earth and others as Tara is.

Darlene-An absolute kick in the pants. That is all that needs to be said! I love her ability to make me laugh.

Amy-one of the wisest women I know. She turned me onto alot of the natural cures that have been helping my headaches and Carters leg. Her kids are some of the coolest I have ever met.

Stephanie-One of the best writers I love to read. Turned us onto a love of letterboxing.

Miranda-One of the most inspiring people I wish I had more time to learn from.

Hopefully, I will be able to connect with you all at the park but if not, I want you to know that reading your blogs helps me feel connected and grounded. I may not always comment but I do hold you all in my hearts!

Long Time, No Blog

To be honest with everything going on with the move and Connor’s little skull fracture, lol, I have had a lot on my plate. We went through three houses before finally having the third work out. We close on it on Thursday so I feel relatively safe in posting a picture or two of it. It is a ranch, with an awesome basement. Very Colorado looking, don’t ya think? At least that is only one set of stairs for Carter to deal with. We just got his old, yellow chair exchanged for a snazzy black one with red flames so that he will have one on each floor.

Two major fears have been conquered over the last week

1. Connor went on the Canyon Blaster at Adventure Dome. He has never been on an upside down coaster. He really wanted to do it before we moved. I can’t believe our doctor let him do it with the concussion, but I knew if he said it was OK, there was nothing to worry about.
2. Carter went to the movies!!! That was huge. It was his Father’s Day present to Bob. We saw Kung Fu Panda.

We move in less than two weeks. At this point, neither of the boys are happy about the move. Connor is going to miss all his friends terribly. He is not having an easy time with goodbyes and would prefer to skip them all together. Carter is more focused on the logistics of it all. Making sure all the bears have ‘moving buddies’ and such. He will not let the packers move his bears, that is a project him and I will do. Actually I am excited for it as we may finally learn how many he really has. Carters self esteem has been faltering lately, for lack of a better term, and I am not quite sure how to help him feel successful. He feels like everyone thinks Connor is so cool and he can’t measure up. I am not sure how much of that is normal little brother stuff but my heart breaks for him. It seems that he is a an age where the boys are all running, skating and climbing and he is feeling very left out. I have talked to him about trying to take some drawing and writing classes in CO but he doesn’t seem very excited about it right now. Hopefully, things will be better once we get there…

Con and I went to see the new Indiana Jones last week and that sparked a new interest in some ancient ruins. He has been watching shows and reading about Stonehenge. The movie didn’t specifically mention that area but for some reason, he is really interested in it. Funny how kids minds make leaps like that when you let them just wonder a bit. I love to watch that process unfold. We have had some great conversations lately about ancient societies and the meaning of life. You can tell he is getting older and his thought process is expanding to realize that, wow, *get ready for the shocker* the world may not really revolve completely around him. Fun stuff, truly! I am really enjoying getting to know this new him.

Mickeys New Service Dog

Carter decided that Mickey needs a helper dog too. Build-a-Bear to the rescue again. I absolutely love the accessories that they have, including the dog cape and wheelchair. I crocheted the leash (yup, I did!)

Hospital Thoughts

So, while I was in the hospital I did a lot of thinking about the past year especially and how happy I am that we are now homeschooling. Sitting there watching Carter sleep hooked up to so many machines made me think about how many nights Bob or I have done this, about how little control we have over him and his health, how many years we wasted trying to maintain the status quo. I could kick myself for not listening and being strong enough years ago to follow my heart and not put him in school. I always wanted Carter at home with me but I let everyone talk me out of it. I listened to all the comments of how not going to school would make him reclusive and wouldn’t give him the real life experience that he needed. My solution was to be the PTA President and then a teacher at their school. It was always my way to be there with the boys as I never wanted them far from me. Almost a year into this (May of last year was really the last time he attended school for any regular basis) I laugh at all of that. When we first started homeschooling, we followed all the rules We did a curriculum every day, even though he hated it most of the time. I remember one frustrating day of actually yelling at him to pay attention to some stupid lesson he was not at all interested in and that was the day I became an unschooler. I didn’t know at the time that there was a real term for my newfound philosophy. I just realized how stupid it was to keep pushing him to be ‘grade level’ and prove that I was right in homeschooling him. Unschooling has been the most incredible thing to happen to our family. It has given control back to Carter over a life that he previously had very little control. You could see the changes in him during this hospital visit. He advocated for himself, insisted that everyone tell him what was going on, told people to leave him alone when he had enough. He saw how little control he had in this situation and fought desperately to gain it back. Perhaps that is because he is getting more comfortable controlling his own life through unschooling. It hit me as a watched him sleep how much unschooling has given him and our family. Now, I will admit I a much less confident unschooling mom of Connor. He has some big goals and I struggle with the boundaries of pushing him to do now the things he needs to accomplish those goals. I suspect as Connor fully explores his freedom, his goals will change. He will see that there are many more roads for him to travel now. At 11 years old he started his own company and website. Yes, he gets a lot of mom support with it but it is his in the end and it is becoming very successful. He wants to explore this more, getting more involved in building business relationships, controlling the site finances, and delving into more advanced coding. I know that he has the drive and spirit to be successful in whatever he chooses. My hope for him is that he learns to be HAPPY in whatever he chooses. That is my hope for Carter as well. More than anything, the boys both need to learn to control their own lives and destiny.