I Think I Might Be a Diva

Oh, help me…..

It’s coming to my attention that they way I like things might be a little weird.Maybe a little diva-y?

I guess I have a weird quirk. When traveling I like having my own hotel room. Not when we are traveling with family, but I will get to that in a minute, but traveling on what I would term ‘business’. I really won’t ever explore sharing, even if it means me paying more.

I’m planning on attending a conference in a few weeks with lots of work and personal friends and everyone sort of wants to have a big sleepover during the conference. Sharing rooms and even beds. This is how people typically afford and enjoy blogger conferences. It’s kind of the sleep over type of fun that most girls enjoy.

So, this is where I think I may be a diva.  I LOVE the parties, will stay up late, have a ball but when it comes to sleeping I just NEED my personal space. Even if it is only to catch 3 hours of sleep a night.

This really has bugged me the last few days. It seems like absolutely no one I talk to feels the same way. Everyone seems to be perfectly comfortable finding another blogger, even if they have never met in real life, and sharing a room. So, what the hell is wrong with me???

In my pondering I started thinking about this. In my whole life I can count the number of sleep overs I attended on my hand. Would love to go and hangout but would rather go home and sleep in my own bed. Even as a little kid.

In college I lasted about a week with 4 roommates. I moved out so fast it wasn’t funny to my own dorm. I did move my cat in though. Oh, God, does that mean I am going to become a creepy old lady who dies alone with 80 cats?

Loved being in a sorority and visiting the house rooms. Never in a million years could I have lived there.

So, I guess it isn’t a money thing cause lord knows I am still paying my college loans and living on my own was sure a part of that.

Is it then sort of a spoiled only child thing (all brothers and sisters moved out by the time I was born)???? I don’t know because my oldest is the exact same way. I remember the night we were all on vacation and he was maybe 8 and we were ‘camping’ in a really nice hotel but staying all in the same room. He woke me up with a psychotic look in his eyes and said “I am going to kill someone if I ever have to sleep in the same room with you all again”. From that day on, we have never booked a family vacation where he had to share a room. He just can’t deal without having a little place to escape to and I totally get that. Yeah, we have never really CAMPED as a family either. That idea sends me into little panic attacks.

So, yes. People will tell you that have known me for years that I have these little odd quirks. I do other things when traveling that are weird…I travel and/or stop for two things….my favorite coffee cream and diet coke with lime. I’m just cranky with out it.

Most people would describe me as pretty social I think. So, what is it about the sleeping that makes me so uncomfortable?

Does being un-adaptable make me a diva? I hope not. Does it make me weird? I don’t know….what do you think?


  1. *raises hand* only child here. Would rather room alone, can fake it with one person (separate beds) on occasion. I don’t really like to stay at (rhetorical “your”) your house, either. Would love to see you, but hotel, please.

  2. Theresa berntson says:

    You are not just a very private person who will share most anything expect your space.And with all you give WHY CAN!T YOU HAVE YOUR SPACE?????

  3. No, you are not weird… I am the same way. I love to go to the parties and such, but also need my own space to sleep. I need that down time.

  4. Actually then I guess I’m a diva! I am pretty much the same way. In fact I do think it’ s somewhat related to being an “only child” (I have a half sister but she never lived with me).

    In fact if I’m around a lot of people for an extensive period of time I get claustrophobic. That is precisely why I never had a roommate. So no I don’t think you are a diva, I think you just need your personal space. I think that’s perfectly reasonable :)

    • Makes me feel so much better that someone I know and respect has the same ‘quirk’. Do you find that other people think its weird that you are like this? I feel like everyone thinks I am such a diva when I say I have my own room and it really isn’t like that, it’s honestly just the only way I know to make sure I am 100% at the conference.

      Thanks so much for sharing.

  5. I can understand this. I don’t mind sharing a room. For me the room sharing is not so much about the sleepover like feel as the savings. Sharing beds with my best girlfriends whom I have know for years and years? I wouldn’t bat an eyelash but with strangers my very own bed is definitely my preference.

  6. I would like an application to join your DIVA club because I am the exact same way. I didn’t even like sharing a hotel room with my sister in Vegas when I went to Sitscation.

    I hated sleepovers as a kid. I think I really only went to one.

    When I went to the Apple conference in SFO with my husband last June…I just about got us killed because I HAD to have a pt of half and half for my coffee.

  7. Just cheap. I come honest by that.

    And… I just plain LOVE the sleepover thing. Have 9 brothers and sisters? Think that’s it?

    I hated it in college when my 4 other roommates were gone at the same time.
    I have never ever LIVED alone. From many roommates to married and just one roommate.

    If you grow old to be the crazy lady with the cats I will grow old and live in an old folks home just for the comp’ny. :)

    • 9 brothers and sisters? WOW. I totally think that has something to do with that :)

      The more I think about my kids, the more I realize they are a lot only kids. They have never shared a room. They thought life was tough when they had to share a bathroom! Since moving to CO my oldest has a whole floor of 2,500 sq feet to himself so I guess even though they aren’t ‘only’s’ they have never had to really share anything.

      I’m actually fairly frugal myself so it is odd that this is something I think nothing of paying for.

  8. I’ve never thought of you as a diva. There’s nothing wrong with not going along with the crowd, you’re just you. And I love you just the way you are: honest, giving, a fabulous friend, and a whole lot of fun.

    I remember last year going to a 3-day 2-night conference in DC. OMG, I thought saving a few dollars would be great, but had no idea that sharing a room with someone I was not compatible with would be so totally uncomfortable and YUCKY!

    I say that if you know who you are going to room with and you are totally comfortable with them then go for it. BUT if you have any reservations, go solo! It’s not worth saving a few dollars to have a not so great time at an event that you spend lots of money of money on in total.

    Have a great time at your conference Barb!

  9. OMG, it’s not only me!! Since finding out I’m going I was thinking the same way. LOL It’s too funny!

    We will get through it. We will. (Say it with me.)

    But, I want my bed, my pillow, my blanket. I am a total Diva.

    • LOL-I have my own room booked. I paid for it on my own outside of the group. Told ya I am weird….but I will totally be hanging out with you all the whole time

  10. Hello Barb
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